To all my Pink Brigade out there, the one question that really sets me off and my logic is that, Who is the Man of the House? Is it the person who brings in the big bucks to run the house or is it the person who nurtures the house and its chores as his/her own child? Forget the gender ladies. This is a said or unsaid imposition, most of us face in our daily life.
Of lately I have been reading lot of stuff on women empowerment, (thanks to my soul sister and social media). What I have observed in them is that every person have different opinions and take on issues surfacing. The common point I find in all of them is the necessity, ability and capability of leading a life equivalent to men. But is that what is meant as Women Empowerment ? Really ? To be like men, in actions and thoughts ? But what is the need for Us to be like men ? Are we not good enough ? According to a very logical blog post and my thoughts, I feel women empowerment is taking control of your aspirations and emotions. The real empowerment is, not to get influenced by the people and situations around and take your own decisions.
Today in the present course of life, there are several women who cannot decide things happening in their lives as they are perplexed between their inner being and family aspirations. The constant fight is what to chose between the two.? This is because, many women were brought up with the ideology that marriage is a very important aspect of one’s life and after marriage, one has to be obedient and considerate of the new family and family members. So, with a thought like this imprinted in our heads, we all faced the inspirational transition in the society and culture. Now, the women in us, wants to be free and decisive but the brain etch pulls that woman back. Some of the brave women follow the women in them, some follow the deboss and some (remember, this is the most common category we all fall into), spend the life moving like a pendulum between both the sides and cannot choose between the two.
There is a lot to learn from the new breed of generation, mainly about the balance between fulfilling other’s dream and prioritizing your own aspirations. Precisely , this is what a society needs for a healthy lifestyle. This will inculcate the correct sense of achievement in a household, which in turn will motivate and inspire the future generations to learn intelligently. I will like to put emphasis on the point that I wish to not particularly talk about working and being independent. This is just a stepping stone or a very small step towards empowerment. The picture is way lot bigger that this minuscule agenda of life.The gist of the complete matter is to have the courage to take your decision. But sadly our society associates our independence with the cheque drawn. So this post is mostly inclined towards that.
Coming to my main point and keeping up with the women empowerment, If a women chose to stay at home and look after the house and the baby/ babies, is she any less than the women and men, slogging their ass off while working outside house? Or the women who are working are any way less dedicated or loving towards their home and child/children ? I know all the women empowerment articles and posts are centered around this very question. But who will take the decision of choice between the two? The answer is “No one except the women herself”. Exactly this is what women empowerment is all about. The woman/ women in question should be the one taking this decision and no one else should have the right to speak about their thoughts in this. No one should have an opinion about other person’s decision.
I have been thinking about this topic since a very long time. And time and again, this kept lingering in my mind and so today I made a move to write my thoughts about it. I was working according to my will and due to unavoidable conditions, I left my job and today I am happily looking after my daughter and home. And that gave me the time and idea to pursue my desire of writing. So I started this blog. This was my choice. And everyone supported me. No points for guessing that there were also many people who raised their eyebrows on my decision. Their opinions used to bother me very much and I took a lot of time to get in terms with all the motivational talks about working for yourself. But to all those,
I am working for myself and I am in a happy space right now. I am not bothered about working outside my house as I am doing exactly that inside a happy environment of my home. And the perk is to look after and play with my daughter. My bonus is seeing her grow into a little monkey. I may work outside some day, maybe next year or maybe next to next year. But that will be solely my decision. And for the closing statement for this post, every woman is the man of the house, it better, be the woman of the house, be it working in the home, outside the home or for the home, along with the male counterparts. So take your own decisions. Be courageous enough to follow your heart. It really doesn’t matter whether you are earning or not. If you are then be confident, satisfied and happy about your choices as you are getting best of both the worlds. You all are equally caring and considerate of the people and situations like the rest of us. And if you are a stay at home mother or a homemaker, then feel equally empowered, confident and happy about your life as you are the one who is managing all the others life by taking care of them and the household. You are no less than the earning ones. Both ways, you are the woman of the house. Just feel good about yourselves and your life. This is the trick to a happy soul.