The running week or the past 5 days plus coming two days, are also known as Valentines week. This concept was as alien to our ancestors as they are to us. I remember that famous line,” Angrez Gaye, Valentine’s Day chod Gaye”. Don’t ask me about the inventor of this line as I also belong to this 2 mins noodle era where it doesn’t matter who said what, as long as what they said is useful for us. Who has the time to discover things?
So coming back to the point that what is this Valentine’s Day or Valentine’s week? Whatever I read or see these days, I very easy stumble upon one article or joke or forwards on Valentine’s Day . And the worst or best part is that they will end as soon as this Valentine’s Day. Nobody will remember all this till the same time next year. Is it really all about love and celebrating the idea of being in love? May be. But for me Mr. Husband is old school. According to him one particular week and few gifts cannot define love or the feelings. Earlier I use to be skeptical about his thoughts as I thought that this was his way of saving himself from giving gifts and dinner. But as I am growing in age, ( not that I am getting old), I also believe that the definition and expressions of love changes with age and time.
Initial mushiness and surprises are all so good but in the later stages, what really matter is to be together and standing high in all the hardships and happy moments of life . And some surprises and expressions of love are always welcome as icing on the cake . It’s basically about understanding the real sense of being together and being in love ,not to be with the idea of being in love but with the real person. The real love is to understand the positives and negatives of an individual and still feel happy and contented to be together .
Yesterday being Sunday , I was reading the Twinkle Khanna blog post on the same subject. Clearly I am a great fan of her writing. Her take on Valentine’s Day was a harsh brunt on all the lovers who think that this is all about the heart. She so intelligently declared that it’s more of a chemical compulsion driven by the brain . And I will say wow. What a bang on target description. This is pin point hilariously true. No compassion for the mushiness in the air during this time. She rightly divided the love in three simple phases . Read her article for more elaboration.
I personally don’t believe in love at first sight. Many do and they have experienced it as well . But for me either they were too intelligent or too lucky. So the question is then what is love? But let’s not get into the complexities of defining such great emotion as love. I will leave it for you all to decode it to the best of your abilities and happiness. I believe it’s all about liking and getting attracted towards the habits and reactions of the other person. The way he/she reacts in situations and how they perceive things is what drives our reactions towards them. Then comes the expectations. How the person withstands in those testing moments defines the fate of a relationship. So for me it’s all about a gradual process of understanding, compassion and adaptation. In the long run what really matter are the memories you built during the journey of life, which gives you joy and happiness.
But how and why does it matter that what I think about this most talked about and sought after thing in our surroundings? What really should matter should be how you feel. True love is all about yourself and your idea of love. If it’s about celebrating all the days declared in love dictionary, then why not? Go ahead and enjoy. The sole purpose is to be happy for yourself. Just be true to yourselves. I feel whether it’s your heart or your brain, they will work fine only if you attain true happiness. Otherwise there will be lots of cross wiring in the brain which in turn will cause you heartache.
Whether you have someone special or not, you should be very special for yourself. And that gives you all the reasons in the world to be happy. On this note I will wish everyone and myself a very Happy Valentine’s Day. Take this day as an opportunity to be happy about yourself. Mark this day to love yourself above everything and everyone. Do whatever you love to do. Or better, make others do what makes you happy . Gift yourself with whatever you like the most . Go on dinners and parties with ample roses and diamonds. Will leave you with this thought and very purposeful day of the year.
Happy reading .