I was reading a book on the weekend and having a morning conversation with Mr Husband, when while discussing, the conversation turned towards a situation, the occurrence of which was not justified. And Mr Husband was like ‘what can be done. May be it was suppose to happen this way’. And then a thought struck my mind that, as human beings, we all have a tendency of blaming the situations (particularly a crisis), on a living or non living entity. Just for records, I was not reading a spiritual book. But that thought forced me to think about it deeper and reason with myself about the causes as to why we do it.
Thus, the next connecting dot in my thoughts was, that its our complex human brain which relates a thread with another until and unless its a happy one. When we are happy, we don’t try to find a source of it, or give the credit to a person or a thing but, when we are sad or disturbed, we quickly sit to analyse as to why it happened and because of whom it happened. Most of the times we easily connect the thread to a past situation or to a person. But there are few times when the mind fails to connect the dots. So my question is that why can’t we, as human being, easily accepts the situations in our lives and move ahead happily? Why is it, that we have to sit and ponder over it? The fun part of this is, on top of being sad or upset, we can get depressed also. That means, our brain will stop secreting the happy hormones, which are actually the only saving grace. They are the only solution, which makes us bounce back in life. And then the best part, if we don’t find anything, we blame it on GOD.
Now in my chain of thoughts, next came the question that why is that? Why we find it very unwinding to put the burden of our deeds on him. Digging it deeper, I think that, GOD, is an invisible entity in each one’s life, who, according to us, is the controller of anything that is happening and therefore we conveniently pulls him over in every discussion and chain of thoughts. This thought pouring doesn’t mean that I don’t believe in GOD. I do it with full faith and valor but as Mr. Husband says, a little discussion, in this case self discussion, is always necessary for clearer thoughts and stronger beliefs. It actually gives you an affirmative answer or a definitive question in the end.
With so much thought and pondering, I finally reached to a point (which is still debatable) that when we blame or criticize others, we are actually avoiding some truths about ourselves. But the actual truth is that we are responsible for our own life. Life is a reality about moving on. As Dr. Steve Maraboli says ,
So the complete discussion circles around one fact that whatever situations are happening in our lives are because of our accountability and past decisions. Whenever we will start taking the responsibilities of our own actions, we will be able to find better solutions to our issues and problems. Thus, from today, stop blaming others and situations. Take the control, accept your faults and solve the issues.
This is a very random thought that came to my mind and I sat and wrote it down. The best part of writing this down was that while thinking, at the end of this , I found the solution. So in a similar way, when you are sad, depressed or confused, just read my write up and be bold enough to find the faults within yourself. You will very soon find a solution to all your problems.